Why Is He Strange With Communication?
My pisces man and I are getting along nicely at the moment even though we are long distance.
He’s been actually asking me for advice ! (Ie. he’ll tell me about something bad happening. I’ll ask him if he’d like advice, and he’s saying “yes that would be great” – he’s a bit indirect about asking for help).
He sends me videos and photos during the day often. And his speech is more open as well.
But there’s two problems:
1. He never wants to talk over the phone. If I initiate and say “if you’re not busy I’d love to talk on the phone” he’s fine with that.
But he never rings.
I told him I often don’t call him because I worry he doesn’t like it as he never does it, I feel like I’m bothering him, and that I hate initiating all the time.
He told me to stop stressing and that I’m never a “bother”.
2. He doesn’t express his feelings for me so I worry he doesn’t have them the way I do. Eg. I tell him sometimes I miss him. Or that I treasure him, etc. Nothing back !
Once, I playfully brought it up and he said “open your eyes” and that was it.
Why won’t he use his words?
Is it that he’s not into me as much as I am to him?
Since this is a follow up question please reply in the same thread that was created for you in the future as it can make it extremely overwhelming for me when the same people submit follow-ups and continued support question under different labels. https://www.piscesview.com/will-he-come-back-2/ Please help me help you all in the best way for the both of us. Or feel free to make suggestions of my process if for some technical reason you feel it would be easier a different way.
For your question it sounds like it truly doesn’t bother him when you say phone him. This kind of reminds me before of a person who always initiated a call with me too and expressed the exact same concern you had. Don’t base it on a person like me taking initiative. Base it on how fast we respond and such and whether or not we are engaged with you.
Actually, here is an interesting example of it. Now for myself it usually takes a long time for me to allow people into my life. There was a girl before who constantly asked me for like an instant messenger alias and I said that I don’t use that stuff. However, long story short one day I installed it just for her as I wanted to help her in life. So obviously she would now know when I am online and that you could have access to me in an instant.
However, she always constantly stressed out by saying thing such as I never initiated the conversation even though I knew she was online. Like there I tried to express the fact that I am even using the software and being present to me is a big sign that I am there for her and that she shouldn’t worry. She would say things too that she felt like a bother and I would say she is not.
Speaking for myself, I wouldn’t express any feelings too as opposed to just being the listener most of the time. It might sound weird, but me listening to her and all in this context is opening up. I am trying to relate with you and understand deeply about who you are, what you want and if we are compatible to the core.
This may just be a coincident too, but based on what you wrote before you mentioned he had struggles in life. I am almost inclined to say because he shared this with you, even if it was in an extremely subtle and passive way, for whatever reason you didn’t want to or were unable to help him. Hence, this made the door close a little more as opposed to opening more in terms of being fully opened to you emotionally. That was definitely the case for me anyhow with my example. In many ways in my mind I don’t need to use words as the actions should speak for themselves. I wouldn’t necessarily say he isn’t into you but he is cleary “not there yet” even if you feel you are for whatever reason.