Hello Alan, I wish to ask you what are the things or stages to look out for when the Pisces man shows interest or have a liking to really like to falling in love and being in love with a girl. I am confuse to whether does he like me as a friend or as a potential girlfriend or whether he is already falling in love with me. What are the things he will do or will not do to a female friend but not to the girl he likes or even falling in love and vice versa? Stuffs like joking around or buying things for the girl or asking her out? Or will he be shy stealing glances, gentle brushing past or blushing?
And also, will a Pisces man be very passive or aggressive when he met with a girl they like? Will he do or say anything in particular like to test her or sound her out? And what are the ways or things to do to be an idea type for these Fishes? It’s been 7 months from knowing this man and I am wondering now if he puts me as a friend category or someone he have strong feelings for. I don’t wish to quote examples as it might have a different meaning if I didn’t put it correctly and so I wish to know it in a general Pisces view. Sorry if it’s kind of a complicated question but I hope you will understand what I am saying. Please give me as much information if you could! Thanks in advance!!!
This can really vary depending on the person’s history and what stage they are at in life. Ultimately it comes down to context of those actions. For example, I could easily say that stealing a glance could simply mean I think you are very pretty and at the same time it could mean I am interested in learning more but don’t really know how without making us both feel weird. So bear in mind I am speaking for myself where personality wise you could classify me as a bit more on the reserved side. At the same time, people throwing traditional “signals” at me usually results in me still taking no action. If I was to break it down into stages it would be something like this:
1) Personality/Values Confirmation – This stage is all about learning who you are. This can take a very long time which is usually the factor I feel on why a girl would get frustrated and wondering why all her hints aren’t working. A big reason why a person like me is fairly reserved in the initial stage is because my mind has like an encyclopedia of personality types and actions. I also know that once I open up I really commit to it. So that is more reason to want the right person.
For example, seeing a person treat everyone to a meal would usually translate to the person being extremely generous. At the same time, it could mean they are simply trying to look good for whatever reason. Therefore, I need/want to see more in different scenarios to determine if that is authentic before making any conclusions. Until I see something that confirms or denies this I will still be nice and social with you as a friend. But to get to the next stage I need to see a different scenario that corroborates with the personality traits with consistency.
Again, that can take a very long time which is why it is a good thing if you get asked a lot of questions or if one is enthusiastic in wanting to go to like events with you. I would actually be skeptical if this phase goes by too fast. Think of it like a photographer that tries to get a perfect picture of the subject. They want genuine reactions and not artificial ones as a result of knowing a camera is on them. Consider this the “Dating” phase except a person like me would rather do it in natural ways as opposed to a “Hey, let’s go on a date so that we can see if we like each other” sort of deal.
2) Taking Initiative With Physical “Flirtation” – Assuming you passed through the first phase, which again can be a very long time, the next stage would be my openness of physical “flirtation”. This means you would see me do things such as going in for the hug when we are laughing, touching your hair or wanting to hold your hand during the appropriate moments. I stress the point it would have to be me initiating it in the moment. You opening up your arms for a hug and me obliging doesn’t count.
There are examples where women have rub their shoulders next to me or placing their foot on me when we are sitting near each other and I simply don’t respond back to it because it didn’t go through the first stage yet. I am not going to say anything about it either because one it is probably a little awkward if you just bring it up and secondly I am still unsure about the whole thing. It makes me think this is all just a physical attraction as an example if it goes way too fast and blunt.
3) Passion To Be With And Take Care of The Other – By this point you must be someone rather special to me. I’ve seen enough where the chemistry seems good. Usually at this point that means my walls are extremely dropped and I will take initiative to see if my frequent presence in your life can make you feel on top of the world. Some call it putting your heart on your sleeves.
Now you may be asking how this is any different from me helping other people usually. There is a difference between someone coming up to me with a problem where I commit to solving it and me willingly placing myself with the person in their daily life to take on any challenges. Like saying, there is a difference between seeing a person getting mugged by two strangers where I jump in to help versus me always wanting to be with the person I care about as I deal the situations with them.
In this stage, I will also allow you to take a more pro-active approach in my life as well to see if I am growing and being nurtured just as much as you are. The walls and fences are essentially open which is what most people are used to getting in the beginning with others. If everything works out you should know what happens next.
In many ways I would imagine these points are what most people would ask for if they were to fall in love. The order and approach to getting the answers may be a little different, but I think it is all conceptually the same. As you can tell, I would be very passive about it initially which is why the other person needs to take initiative usually. Once you break down the walls then everything changes. I said it many times where with my type of personality you just need to be yourself where if it is genuine it should organically build up.