Should I call him or not?
I rephrased my question to be more general, because I see you want to post it on the site. So I’ve been dating a Pisces guy for a while and after being so needy and cute in the first weeks he got distant. He was going through some hard times, and even though I helped him I think that wasn’t a good idea because he was tired and I was around him all the time. So he got dissapointed of me (as he said) and he said he just likes me not loves me, although he wanted to have some time alone, maybe 1-2 weeks and to fix after that. I was hurt so I ended the relationship. So we havent spoken for weeks, and than i called to ask him out, and he replied ok, sure and apparently was happy. So we met, and havent talked about our fight, I acted as a friend, but since than he hasn’t contacted me. Should I try to call him again? I’m not sure if this is a good idea, since if he still likes me, than I made the first step already for him.
Thank you for your answer
It sounds like he doesn’t fully appreciate you to the level that is ideal in a relationship by most people’s standards. It almost reminds me of examples such as how a couple dating can seem so marvelous together. Then once they move and live in together everything changes as you see the person everyday while seeing sides of them they would normally hide or mask in a way to the general public.
Whether or not you should call him is up to you as I am not sure if he has done things that seem very over the top caring for you as an example to make you want to pursue him. My general thought is you have kind of seen each other at a peak already in a sense. Like if it doesn’t work out in this simple situation of just being around each other a lot then how in the world is this going to work if you are married together per se? If the solution is to completely avoid each other for three days a week is that the kind of relationship you want? Everyone is different of course.
Think about it for you too. You mentioned you were hurt so you left. That is your personal prerogative of course. But what I would think is if a dispute like this can cause you two to break up then are you two truly the ideal fit? I don’t think anyone can change just like that without some serious life altering scenarios as an example.
In my opinion, with a real genuine connection there shouldn’t be a need for this cat and mouse or playing hard to get kind of thing.