Pisces men and commitment
I met this man online and immediately we could not stop talking. We text all day then talk on the phone or FaceTime for hours at night. We talk about everything! What scares me is that he says he is not ready for a relationship because of his career. He will be moving to another state for work for a trial period of 2 months and if things don’t go well he will come back. I don’t know what to do at this point because we continue to talk. He doesn’t stop communicating or wanting to help me or know more about me. Our differences are intriguing but we have the same goals and values in life. Is it wise to be patient?
He wants to see where it will go and says he loves talking to me and that he’s comfortable with me. I am things I’m working towards and am not rest either but he is definitely someone I’d love to be with. What should I do?
Your situation sounds like it’s more about making a decision of a potential lifestyle change. If what you wrote is accurate where you two get along so well and your values align then if I was in his shoes I would probably say something along that lines as well where I am simply not ready for a relationship. Generally speaking, if it was me saying that with that circumstance it doesn’t literally mean I am not ready to like be with you but rationally it is “ridiculous” to expect the other to say relocate for the other.
Like pretend here it ends up working for him and he stays there. Now what? Let’s pretend you can’t/won’t move as you need to focus on your own career where you are at. So like there my mindset personally would be like why even entertain this as a possible relationship at this point? No point in holding you back as well from finding someone more suitable.
When I think about it more I would probably be doing the exact same thing with the “let’s keep talking and see how it goes” route. I would say the fantasy mindset a person like me would have would be if everything was so perfect value wise and all then we would just trust and be together as regardless of what obstacles we go through we will have each other. However, the realities kick in too where that just isn’t feasible in most circumstances. People have careers and aspirations that may only be obtainable in certain places. Individuals may want to live specific lifestyles. Many people require to be in an area where they have stability and family locally.
So with that in mind unless you were so confident in going all in with this just being patient and seeing how it goes would sound like the “safest” and most “sensible” route to go with. You haven’t indicated anything that would make me think it’s a bad idea other than the fact that I am assuming in saying all this that you have a decent amount actual in-person time together. Otherwise it reminds me of like how people say they get along so well until they move in together.