Hi Alan, I’m so happy to chance upon your site! Thank you for all your insights into the world of Pisces men.
I met mine last year through an online dating website and hit it off from there. We dated for about three months before it died down. The dating stage was fantastic while it lasted. I really enjoyed his company and all the conversations we shared. It was on a deeper level and we genuinely wanted to know about each other and each other’s past. I am not shy but I am an introvert and I have never met someone I can connect with so quickly! We had multiple coincidences and shared similar interests.
3 months after, our conversations slowed down and we were meeting less. I was quite confused. He did share with me how he ghosted out on previous dates before so I thought he was doing it on me. I sent him a message asking to meet and that I get it that sometimes things just don’t work out and it is okay and I would love to end it on a good note. We met, and he explained that he was just really busy with work and we talked about how we will try to work things out. I didn’t have a good feeling after the talk though. It felt like there was something else and I couldn’t figure out what it was.
He did not initiate conversations the month that followed. I dropped him a few messages and he would respond but that was it. We did not meet for that month and I thought the relationship wasn’t going anywhere so I dropped him a final message to him saying that I get it that it’s not working but I am happy to have met him and wished him all the best. He responded 2 weeks after, apologizing for not replying sooner as he was away and got caught up with work. He then asked for a favor for his friend, which I assisted him with. That was it and I thought I would never hear from him again but he texted again the following month asking if I was interested in a business proposition and I said I was. He said he would call me but I didn’t hear from him for a month until last week when I texted him about it. We’ve been talking about this plan twice on the phone and during the last call, we kinda talked about what happened to us and I said I thought he faded out and wasn’t interested and he said he was just really terribly busy with work during that period. I was dying to ask if he would want to try again but I didn’t.
We agreed to meet tonight but when I texted him yesterday to ask if we are still good to meet tonight, he did not respond.
Not sure if it helps – I am also a Pisces and during the periods when he disappeared, I have never kicked up a big fuss. Of course I was upset but I have never sent him long messages begging him to return etc because that’s just pathetic. I also have a strong feeling that he was seeing someone few days after the business proposition message but I am unsure if he is still seeing her now. When we spoke on the phone he was really gentle and asking about me and telling me what he’s been up to. When we were about to end the call, the things he said made me go awww but I kinda have a feeling he purposely said it to create a emotional attachment.
I am so confused. What’s going on!? Am I getting played?
Based on what you wrote to me it sounds like he wasn’t that into you as you may have been hoping where instead he simply hit the right notes with you. Afterwards he kind of just went along with it as he saw some kind of value in being with you. To me that would perfectly explain why he kind of just disappears and gets back to you when there is some kind of external factor involved like the business proposition you were saying.
Like for me as an example there is no way if I was that into you that I would respond two weeks later and say “been busy” as I would try to find ways to talk to you. Heck, if anything I would want you to in many ways know what I am going through as like for me if I felt you “are the one” I want you to be by my side all the way as I would for you. If I were you I would trust all those doubtful feelings you are getting with him and stop giving so much benefit of the doubt.