How To Know If The Person Is Lying or Cheating On You
So I talked about before how there are obviously good and devious people and how a lot of people just stereotype everyone born under this Pisces sign as a nice guy. But that is so further from the truth as everyone is different and unique based on life experiences. So what is a good way of exposing a phony, so to speak?
Here’s the thing, from what I have seen usually the people who are the most deceitful are the ones that are soft spoken while always trying to persuade you by revealing a lot about themselves quickly with personal details to hopefully break down your barrier. People with my personality type rely heavily in trying to understand people emotionally and in a sense I guess you can say some opt to use it for the good and some for the bad.
There was a person in my life before who I have known for a long time and as a result he asked me for help financially. As foolish as it was, I put my guard down as he was a friend since childhood and so I simply kept giving while trusting his word. Now the funny thing for all you readers is that he was a Pisces too and in terms of values and ethics I would later find out that we seemed like polar opposites.
Once I made it firm that I expected him to follow through with his promise to pay me back, it appeared that he began to tell people fake sob stories all of a sudden. Why? To establish this illusion that he was this nice guy that wouldn’t hurt a fly while telling lies about me to paint me as the bad guy. So ultimately, he ran away while telling everyone that I was just this mean bully who was out to get him, so to speak.
I discovered too that he was cheating on his current girlfriend in so many ways with so many girls and therefore if word got out about that it would definitely destroy the honest and loyal perception that he tries to paint himself as to others. So this experience was showing me the two sides of a liar with this personality type.
He would often imply to me too that his girlfriend was mistreating him. In my mind, my gut told me that a lot the stories he told me were baloney (Not to mention inexcusable). But what I did as a friend was I asked specifically the type of conversations that he was having with his girlfriend to see how bad it truly was. Sure enough, he told me and to me it sounded like he was being a jerk such as having an argument on the phone where if they decided to live with each other that it would be her responsibility to take care of the house pet (In a gender based role type of way).
He then continues to try and justify it more by saying how she yells at him all the time. The interesting thing is that his story is always so over the top that he can’t even tell the story consistently. Again, he tried to use the emotional tactic it seemed where he wanted me to feel sorry for him as if he is so helpless and vulnerable. Another thing I noticed too is that during the time he cheated on his girlfriend he kept making big promises on how their future was going to be like together financially. A funny example was that he brought her to an office that he didn’t even own. My assumption is that it was a way to paint the image of his rising success to further keep her in his grasp like a confidence trick game.
Going back to how he was trying to essentially scam me, you can see that the tactics in general were very similar where he used over exaggerated stories about him being a victim to garner support. The great thing in my situation was that some people tried to verify this and sure enough it exposed him. You can definitely call that a scheme that backfired.
Always look out for the over exaggerated and sappy stories. I would be inclined to say, if they say they were mistreated in a crazy over the top way, ask them politely that you want to verify it for their sake. Their reaction to that will reveal so much. Example, a bad sign is if the person gets super defensive over that request. You know they are hiding something.
From what I saw from that relationship aspect, I think the key on how the girl(s) could have caught him was by using some logic. Example, the guy claims that he is this deep and sensitive guy that is so loyal. When you think about it, if you are deep, sensitive and loyal in that way aren’t the odds stacked up where you want to be careful about your personal details that you reveal to a potential partner as you don’t want to get hurt by them since you are so sensitive? Why would this person want to reveal so much to you so soon? Kind of like salesmen that is so nice to you or all of a sudden talks about his relative that passed away.
As well, some people may say that a person like myself is full of big dreams and ideas and so you can’t really distinguish a dishonest person to an honest person just based on the fact that they are promising the moon. The key differentiators I’d say is how self serving the promise is and to what extent they are using that as the reason why you should continue to trust or stay with them. I think the key thing is a loyal person in this manner wants to grow old with “The One”. So instead of a “Stick with me and I will get you this” mindset it should be a “How can we do this together for us?” Big difference.
This is a trickier bunch to dissect, but it is really easy to crack them by knowing what to say and what to look for.