Is a good idea to show my emotions to a Pisces Guy?
I hope you are fine!! (and I apologize about my grammar errors)
First, I´d like to thank you for take your time and write topics about you, because they are like a lantern for me. I really want to know and understand people who has similar type of personality as you. Personally, your anecdotes help me to don´t get depressed, I´m over sensitive, so, changes in people let me down easily. Also, I learned things about myself…Why? Well the explanation is odd… I´m not really believe in all astrology stuff, but I recognize that there are a lot of things that are pretty similar about people personality. Me, for example, I´m a Taurus, but I´m not a practical person completely… maybe, because I´m Pisces rising too. I find a lot of similarities with you and Pisces people in my own behavior, even I realized that I use to “tested” people for let them be in my deepest zone. (I hope you know what I mean)
Well, I just want to say you -Thank you- for share your experiences with us, for me is so helpful, I really appreciate your gift to us. Sincerely I appreciate your words.
Now, I´d like to tell you about a Pisces guy I met… He is so similar to you, I mean, about the way to see the world and trait people… I feel something special for him, maybe love, but not if I hope we become girlfriend and boyfriend, of course I´d like to found my soulmate in him, even if we could not be together for any reason. I just can´t explain myself: why I need to care him and be for him when he´s down… When I notice he is depressed I ask him indirectly what happened, and he used to answer me the reason but without details… and I don´t really want to know them if he doesn´t want to share that with me. So I offered him some words that I´d would like to hear if I were at that situation. Because of time, I have to say all by chat. I don´t really know if he feels better, but I try.
He is my dance teacher, so I see him about 3 times for week, I take the initiative to talk him because many times I noticed he stare at me thought the mirrors. So I asked him by chat about how he discovered his passion for dance… and he answered me in a nicely way. I have to say you that we really do not speak much in person because of time, he is a busy guy. He did not ask me too much about me, but in one occasion he told me (indirectly) that he considered me a close person to him.
One day I was joking with him and send some funny gifs and images, and then, as you do, maybe he links some image with something I said or something I did, but suddenly he stopped to laugh and told me that I have to stop label myself, because it causes me apprehension about social approval. Well, since he told me that, I start to change my behavior and I noticed the changes in my life, personal, at work, with my friends and family. Then I wrote and gave him a hand letter explained why his advice was so important for me and expressing my gratitude for his words at that moment and I offered him my help any time he need it.
I really love the way he understands the value of people, and when he said that known people by their essence was a whisper for the soul, I realized he was a truly Pisces guy, and he speaks the same language I do.
He is a really busy guy, in one occasion he told me that “his life was not his own”; for me, that means that he is his last priority, and I feel sadness because maybe he is there for people but he can´t finds balance, maybe I´m wrong. Nevertheless, I let him know that he needs balance in his life, and he needs take some rest every day for recover that energy, because he is so tired many many times…. He responded me that he´ll try to take care (a little more) for himself
So, I have some questions for you, maybe you can help me:
Is he giving more energy than he really can? The second: Do you think is a good idea let him know about I really worry about him, and I´d like help him? And the last one: Is ok show him my emotions about how I feel when he says something and It helps me in my day to day, is not only about thankfulness, is about he´ll know how I feel when I have a positively change in my life because his words. I ask you, because I´d like to build with him a special connection, you know, share advices, give help, show him stuff about things he likes, but I feel, for some reason he can´t (or he does not want).
Thank you so much for all and every word you write for us.
You’re welcome as it is always my hope that things will always get a little brighter for everyone after a read. Always nice to hear positive stories from people.
I am going to try my best to answer your question as there could be some lost in translation bits here where I might be comprehending what you wrote inaccurately. From the sounds of it when you say he tells you the answers without the details then in many ways I would personally say that gives you access to explore more. Because based on what you wrote and if we are going with the notion that he is super busy in always dedicating time for others then it’s natural to think that he is used to the giving but never receiving route.
In that sense you would just have to take initiative in a reasonable way if you wanted to help him or to build that connection. Kind of like how in one of my other posts where I mentioned that one girl just took initiative as she clearly recognized I was struggling. Now the quote about the “his life is not his own” is not super clear to me contextually. Example, is he saying he has like say a super religious mindset where it’s like one is constantly working for someone bigger or is that phrase more about implying that he feels he is stuck in a routine of having to satisfy something he dislikes in life per se? Although, I will assume from what you wrote about him telling you that he will try to take better care of himself is more about exhaustion.
With that said, my current interpretation would be that factoring in your comment about him apparently considering you as a close person to him might be more about an outlet to release things per se as opposed to energy of like rejuvenating. It’s like saying if a person was to walk up a steep hill at the moment it’s not literally physical energy they are lacking as they can get there without a problem. It’s the lack of motivational energy where say he wants someone to walk with him.
In terms of expressing emotions and being in his life if we are going with the notion that he thinks like me then the only thing to keep in mind is that as long as the doors are open it’s up to you to make yourself feel at home and care for it whatever way you wish. You don’t need to ask. If the door was shut on you then that is a different story.
Let’s continue with the house analogy. By the sounds of it you are in the house at the moment. In this house you can clearly see that certain things need like some kind of maintenance. Example, maybe the fridge is empty and needs some shopping, the dishes need to be put away, etc. Now you are his guest that he openly welcomed you inside his home. Because you are his guest it’s typical manners to not want your guests to worry about any of that stuff other than to just relax. Hence, he never asks for help even though you can clearly see that he is way behind or that he is stressing over it.
Like there do you think you need to ask him permission to help him? Like there I would only imagine if you knew exactly the type of stuff he ate on a daily basis then just taking initiative to help him stock up on some stuff for the fridge would probably make him feel very appreciated while recognizing your kind spirit to be concerned for him.
I would say in many ways building the connection is super easy if one has already allowed you into their life. To be clear again, not being very detailed about what is like say bothering him is not a rejection of like stopping you from entering the house. It’s simply more of a mindset that one doesn’t want to bother others with it as the mentality is the majority of people wouldn’t spend the necessary energy to do anything per se anyways. So there is no point in like spending the energy to explain it just to have the other be like “cool story bro” and then walk away if that makes sense.
As long as you are authentically yourself while at the same time wish to authentically get to know him then you really don’t need to do much other than maintaining the connection and naturally aiding him in ways you feel you can. Like saying if he is tired after the dance don’t ask him if he wants some water or whatever just offer it I’d say.